Educating yourself is a step in your recovery.
Here I’m going to put up links that I’ve found that most biblicly describe the toxic relationship. Gaining wisdom in what it is you are dealing with will best help you break the chain and recover.
We are told to be wise as serpants. We can’t be naive in what we are dealing with if we truly want to break free and avoid a relationship like this in the future.
There’s a lot of information out there. So I am listing the ones I’ve found most helpful and explained from a standpoint of Truth.
It is real important right now to make sure you that all the information you receive is compared to what the Lord says.
We have to always be comparing what we take in, think, or feel to the only thing we are assured is absolute Truth, God’s Word.
While you are going through this, focusing on the Lord and filling your mind with truth, it’s important to keep the memories and thoughts of the person or situation out of your mind. Anything that triggers those emotions can keep the connection going.
Keep renewing your mind in the Word of God. It will start to break the grip that fear has on you.
You have to keep filling your mind with Truth to gain control over your thoughts, memories, and emotions.
Gaining control over your emotions is key in not allowing the situation or person to manipulate your mind anymore.
So get that verse you can cling to when fear sets in. When you start worrying, pray, read, or worship instead.
It’s going to be a process. You may have years of memories attached to this person or situation. It has become engrained into all of your brain cells. So continue to pray and ask others for prayers.
During this time, continue praying the Lord’s prayer and for the Lord to deliver you from anything not of Him, any soul ties you may have.
Soul ties can be formed in many ways. Just off the top of my head, here are some I can think of:
- Trauma bonds (which is an extremely tight bond)
- Family relations (parental, sibling, any family who exerts control over your life)
- Abuse and manipulation
- Unforgiveness and bitterness
- Environmental influence
An article of ways to rebuild yourself after trauma:
Another article I’ve seen recently kind of explains how this is an emotional tie. I’m listing this more for insight into the bond itself. I’m not sure the way they recommend releasing it is scriptural, but it is still good information: